How to deal with Anger?

I’m so F*cking Angry I could punch a hole in the wall right now.

I can feel something boiling inside me that needs to get out.

But I do whatever it takes to contain it.

I stop speaking, I convince myself that it’s not important.

Eventually I calm myself down and just go along like nothing’s happened.

This used to be me a lot of the time.

Whenever I felt angry I would just contain it.

Showing anger for me was a sign of losing control.

The problem with this approach was that the anger would fester.

And after a while, I would explode over something very small.

Then I would actually lose control because my anger was unjustified.

Emotions are meant to be felt.

They aren’t meant to be dealt with, contained or bottled up.

We don’t need to find solutions to our emotions. They just need to be expressed in the moment and released.

There’s often a real taboo about expressing certain emotions (Especially Anger).

But they are just emotions… They are part of what makes us alive.

Even the Dalai Lama gets angry. He gets angry in the moment and then just lets go.

So next time you feel angry, the first thing you can do is accept that it’s OK to feel angry.

You don’t need to fix it or manage it.

The next step is to figure out the best way to express it without being hurtful.

Start by taking some deep breaths.

Then if you trust yourself to express that anger verbally and in a non hurtful way, do it.

If you don’t, look for other means to express it: go for a run, box your pillow, open the window and scream your head off while driving down the motorway.

Release that energy and embrace the fact that you are alive 😊

How do you deal with Anger?