You’re so stupid

“You’re so stupid” he yelled at me after I accidentally spilled my drink.

And again, “You’re such a bloody idiot! You can’t even get a cup of coffee without making a mess”.

The abuse just kept coming... and I just took it... I didn’t say anything...

Probably because I believed him.

And also because I had no choice.

This was the voice inside my head, this was me talking to myself (Plot Twist 😲).

And don’t worry I didn’t go on to start my own soap factory or create an underground fight club.

But this was the type of internal dialogue I would have with myself on a regular basis 🗣️

I used to think that my inner voice was my worst enemy 😈

All it did all day was tell me I wasn’t good enough... that I was stupid… that I was embarrassing myself etc…

And I would hate it, I would even be hard on myself for being so hard on myself.

It was a never ending circle of me beating myself up… and could be triggered by something as little as spilling my coffee ☕

But one day, my coach gave me a different way of looking at this inner voice 💡

She made me imagine that this was the voice of a small child, an earlier version of me 🧒🏼

A version of me that had played a big role in my survival growing up, but who’s purpose wasn’t needed anymore.

She taught me to look at it with compassion and love, to thank it for its role in making me who I am today. But also to tell it that I’ve got this now and I don’t need it’s help anymore.

This seems so simple but it’s completely changed my life.

If a 5 year old boy told you you were stupid, you wouldn’t believe him or get mad at him. It might even make you smile. Especially if you saw him with love and compassion.

That’s the same way that I look at any type of negative self talk now.

And since I’m not battling with my inner voice anymore, I have way more headspace to be kinder to myself. To treat myself like I would my best friend.

So if you want to experience less negative self talk, the first thing you can do is identify the small child that represents your inner voice. And then treat it with love and compassion 💙

You deserve the break and you deserve to spill as much coffee as you want.

If this resonated, let me know how old you think your inner voice is in the comments!


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